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May 20
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#270 Reclaiming Yourself After Heartbrea...

BREAK UP BESTIE
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Today I’m taking you solo through a topic that hits close to home—reclaiming the things that feel lost after a breakup. Whether it’s a favorite song, a restaurant, a hobby, or even an entire part of town, breakups often leave us avoiding things we used to love.

In this episode, I’m sharing stories from listeners and my own experience about what we feel our exes “took” from us, and how I learned to gently approach those triggers in my own healing process. I’ll walk you through figuring out what’s actually worth bringing back into your life, when you might be ready, and how to create new, empowering rituals around those things.

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