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Aug 6
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Dealing with Breakups - Why anxious atta...

Nathalie Nimah
About this episode

Breakups are never easy but if you struggle with anxious attachment, letting go can feel impossible. The end of a relationship doesn’t just bring sadness - it can trigger panic, obsessive thoughts, deep fear of abandonment, and an overwhelming sense of loss.

In this episode, I explore:

  • Why breakups hit so hard for anxiously attached people

  • The nervous system’s role in heartbreak and emotional withdrawal

  • What your mind really craves when you're stuck in rumination

This is your gentle guide for navigating the pain of letting go.

Whether you’re in the middle of a breakup, still hung up on someone from your past, or just want to understand your patterns more deeply, this episode will help you feel less alone & more empowered!


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