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Nov 20
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#215: Resentment, Real Repair, Conflict ...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today’s episode, I’m joined by my friend James “Fish” Gill for a listener Q&A all about conflict, communication, and staying connected through hard moments.

We explore some big questions, including:

  • How to release resentment when a conflict is “resolved” but the emotional residue is still sitting in your body
  • What real repair actually looks like, and why some apologies land while others don’t
  • When a relationship swings from explosive conflict to total conflict avoidance — and how to find a healthier middle ground
  • How to navigate dating when kids are involved, especially when parenting differences trigger deeper fears, jealousy, or old wounds

Fish and I unpack the relational dynamics underneath these questions and offer compassionate, practical guidance for moving through it with more clarity, honesty, and connection.

If you’re wanting to deepen your communication, repair more effectively, and understand yourself and your partner in moments of tension, this conversation will be a supportive place to land.


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