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May 6
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#268 From Shock to Sadness: How Breakup ...

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In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into what it’s really like to go through the initial shock after a breakup. I’ll share what those first days can feel like—whether you’re in disbelief, feeling numb, caught up in logistical details, or hoping your ex might come back. I’ll talk about why it’s completely normal if the deepest pain doesn’t hit right away, and remind you that however you’re experiencing your breakup, you’re not alone. If you’re feeling confused, overwhelmed, or just not yourself, this episode is here to help you understand and validate those emotions.

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