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Feb 2025
28m 13s

Three Ways to Respond to "I Hate You"

DR. BECKY KENNEDY
About this episode

When your kid yells “I hate you” or acts out in some other way, it’s hard enough to deal with that situation, but when you and your partner disagree on how to respond, it makes it that much harder. Parenting with a partner who is skeptical or disagrees with your approach is hard and tiring. It's also common. This week, Dr. Becky addresses the challenges of parenting with a skeptical partner and gives tools for how co-parents can learn to speak the same language. 

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