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Sep 17
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3 Ways to Change Your Child’s Irritating...

KIRK MARTIN
About this episode

Your kids are going to do things that are annoying, irritating, and sometimes just wrong. You will be justified in getting angry and correcting them. But I want you to turn what usually separates you from your child…into a bonding opportunity to draw you closer. I want you to deal with your own triggers and control yourself…because that will change their behavior more quickly. Take advantage of the Back-to-School Sale at https://celebratecalm.com/products/ and get 35 hours of strategies to stop the power struggles. Email casey@celebratecalm.com with any questions.


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