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Aug 2022
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Here's What Your Kid's Actions Really Me...

BETCHES MEDIA
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Aleen and Brittany are re-joined by one of their favorite guests, clinical psychologist, author, and CEO of Good Inside, Dr. Becky Kennedy. Dr. Becky starts by outlining the 10 principle problem behaviors in children from her book. She suggests that the way we interact with our kids is the way they interact with themselves - behavior is just a window into a child. Aleen wonders if ‘bad’ behavior is inevitable, but Dr.Becky explains that it’s more about kids' temperament in relation to the environment. On the flip side, Brittany wonders how to praise ‘good’ behavior. Dr. Becky explains that their achievement isn’t their identity and neither is their ‘bad’ behavior. Ultimately, kids develop the identity their parents reflect back to them: you want to separate their identity on the inside from their actions. The Good Inside approach isn’t soft —there’s a lot between sending your kid to their room and ‘feel your feelings.’

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