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Jan 2025
22m 3s

Can We Raise Good Kids Without Punishing...

DR. BECKY KENNEDY
About this episode

If you've lost your cool with your kids and fallen into yelling, threats, timeouts, or other punishments, you’re not alone. This week, Dr. Becky explores the complex topic of punishment in parenting, and addresses the skepticism surrounding the idea of raising well-behaved children without resorting to taking their dessert or iPad away.

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