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Jan 2025
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428 SelfWork: The Shame and Self-Blame G...

MARGARET ROBINSON RUTHERFORD PHD
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The focus today is on what I call "the shame and self-blame game." One listener told me recently that she wondered for a long time - “Did I allow my abuse?” How many of you feel to blame for your own abuse? And does that very shame and self-blame make it even more important to keep what happened secret? You bet it can. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: ... Show More
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