The focus today is on what I call "the shame and self-blame game."
One listener told me recently that she wondered for a long time - “Did I allow my abuse?” How many of you feel to blame for your own abuse? And does that very shame and self-blame make it even more important to keep what happened secret? You bet it can.
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Aug 28
513 SelfWork: Inside A Psych Ward: A New Book by JaKob Williams, Chock Full of Nuts
You may never have been on the inside of a psych ward. In his new book, JaKob Williams takes you there.Or at least, he takes you to his version of a residential psych ward.He's an interesting guy. Brilliant. Sarcastic. Successful. Driven. Creative. Funny.And he has bipolar disord ... Show More
42m 10s
Aug 21
512 SelfWork: CBT for Insomnia and Its 100% Effective Cure: Dr. Nick Wignall
Dr. Nick Wignall continues as Dr. Margaret's guest this week, as we switch from focusing on emotional fitness to the 100% effective CBT tool for curing insomnia, called sleep compression.It's hard to believe that in ten years of doing SelfWork, I don't remember an episode where w ... Show More
28m 11s
Sep 2023
Ep 208 The Cycle of Self-Shame
<p dir="ltr">Self-shame is a complex and deeply ingrained emotion that many of us experience at some point in our lives. It can manifest in various ways, impacting our self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being. We will delve into the intricate cycle of self-shame, explor ... Show More
15m 23s
Oct 2024
237. The psychology of shame
Shame follows us everywhere. So many of us are bound by shame about our past, our mistakes, our identity, our looks, our decisions and choices. This can make living a meaningful and fulfilling life incredibly difficult when you have your own personal, shame bully following you ev ... Show More
37m 57s
Mar 2020
124. Self-Improvement Shame
Join me this week as I introduce you to a concept I call self-improvement shame. Coming to this work with shame about yourself, to change your own negative thoughts about yourself, is never going to produce the change you want to see. You can’t outrun your shame, and so instead, ... Show More
25m 53s
Sep 2025
How to Let Go of Your Shame, Solved
Chances are, there’s something in your life you feel deeply ashamed about—something you’ve never told anyone, something you can’t even admit to yourself. In this episode, we go deep into the emotion we all experience but almost no one wants to talk about: shame. Where it comes fr ... Show More
3h 41m
Oct 2018
219 - How to Overcome Feelings of Shame
What do challenges as diverse as addiction, perfectionism, narcissism, and masochism have in common? They’re driven by a family of emotions that share “a painful awareness of self,” otherwise known as shame. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen talks with psychologi ... Show More
20m 48s