The focus today is on what I call "the shame and self-blame game."
One listener told me recently that she wondered for a long time - “Did I allow my abuse?” How many of you feel to blame for your own abuse? And does that very shame and self-blame make it even more important to keep what happened secret? You bet it can.
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Yesterday
522 SelfWork: Unlocking the Secret to Finding Your Purpose
Finding your purpose. Is that easy? Hard? With the help of the highly-respected Dr. Terrence Roberts, Dr. Margaret repeats his question, "Why are you?"I was lucky enough to have a very special experience this past week. I heard Dr. Terrence Roberts, who was one of the Little Rock ... Show More
25m 9s
Oct 23
521 SelfWork: What Does "Asking For Help" Truly Mean?
Today, Dr. Margaret focuses on what "asking for help" in the context of mental health... actually means.So many will tell you that asking for help reflects weakeness.I’d like to challenge that thought. And I’ve got great help from the little book The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and th ... Show More
21m 58s
Oct 16
520 SelfWork: The Exhilarating Messiness of Grief
Today’s episode of SelfWork was suggested by the last episode of Ted Lasso, in which Rebecca talked about grief and the messy feelings it can bring with it.Rebecca tells Ted, "We laugh, we hurt, we fall, we get back up. We're a mess. And that is… fantastic. Because being messy ju ... Show More
21m 8s
Sep 2023
Ep 208 The Cycle of Self-Shame
<p dir="ltr">Self-shame is a complex and deeply ingrained emotion that many of us experience at some point in our lives. It can manifest in various ways, impacting our self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being. We will delve into the intricate cycle of self-shame, explor ... Show More
15m 23s
Oct 2024
237. The psychology of shame
Shame follows us everywhere. So many of us are bound by shame about our past, our mistakes, our identity, our looks, our decisions and choices. This can make living a meaningful and fulfilling life incredibly difficult when you have your own personal, shame bully following you ev ... Show More
37m 57s
Mar 2020
124. Self-Improvement Shame
Join me this week as I introduce you to a concept I call self-improvement shame. Coming to this work with shame about yourself, to change your own negative thoughts about yourself, is never going to produce the change you want to see. You can’t outrun your shame, and so instead, ... Show More
25m 10s
Sep 2025
How to Let Go of Your Shame, Solved
Chances are, there’s something in your life you feel deeply ashamed about—something you’ve never told anyone, something you can’t even admit to yourself. In this episode, we go deep into the emotion we all experience but almost no one wants to talk about: shame. Where it comes fr ... Show More
3h 41m
Oct 2018
219 - How to Overcome Feelings of Shame
What do challenges as diverse as addiction, perfectionism, narcissism, and masochism have in common? They’re driven by a family of emotions that share “a painful awareness of self,” otherwise known as shame. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen talks with psychologi ... Show More
20m 48s