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Sep 2023
15m 23s

Ep 212 The Cycle of Self-Shame

Leslie M. Thornton
About this episode

Self-shame is a complex and deeply ingrained emotion that many of us experience at some point in our lives. It can manifest in various ways, impacting our self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being. We will delve into the intricate cycle of self-shame, exploring its origins, effects, and recommended steps for breaking free from its grip. Join us as we navigate this topic and discover ways to cultivate self-compassion and acceptance.

"The antidote to self shame is self-compassion. It's the practice of treating ourselves with the same kindness and understanding that we would offer to a dear friend." - Leslie Thornton

What you will learn from today's episode:

00:14 - To be accepting of your mistakes and nurturing self-compassion

01:14 - How women's tendency for perfection leads to self-shame

03:58 - Food and body-weight issues pour over to other areas in life and affects relationships

06:58 - The best you can do to yourself as you would to a dear friend who makes mistakes

08:49 - What it means to embrace a growth mindset and overcome self-shame

10:00 - Ways that helped Leslie get past through food obsession and self-shame

12:11 - The number one tool to combat self-shame

13:26 - How self-compassion is a lifetime process

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