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Mar 2020
21m 59s

124. Self-Improvement Shame

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Join me this week as I introduce you to a concept I call self-improvement shame. Coming to this work with shame about yourself, to change your own negative thoughts about yourself, is never going to produce the change you want to see. You can’t outrun your shame, and so instead, I’m showing you how to start creating true transformation in the long-run.

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