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Jun 2025
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Break Free from Trauma Bonding | Take Ba...

Dr Jodi Aman and Lily Aman
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Break Free from Trauma Bonding | Take Back Your Power 

Trauma bonding can keep us stuck in relationships that drain our self-worth, confidence, and happiness. The cycle of hope, hurt, and confusion makes it incredibly difficult to walk away—even when we know it’s not healthy. If you recognise yourself in this, you are not alone. Trauma bonds are powerful, but you CAN break free and reclaim your inner power. In this episode of Ask Dr. Jodi, I unpack what trauma bonding really is, why it happens, and how it can quietly undermine your mental health and relationships. We’ll explore the root causes, the emotional risks, and—most importantly—practical steps you can take to start healing and rebuilding your sense of self.

Many people struggle to understand why they stay in relationships that feel both necessary and draining. Trauma bonding can make leaving or changing these dynamics feel impossible. 

Key Takeaways

  • What trauma bonding means and why it happens in the brain and body
  • How trauma affects memory, emotions, and the stories we tell ourselves
  • Why feeling “different” or “broken” after trauma is a normal human response, not a personal failing
  • The dangers of isolation and why connection (even small talk!) is crucial for healing
  • How trauma bonds can become unhealthy, especially when power tactics or manipulation are involved
  • The difference between healthy interdependence and overdependence
  • Practical steps to build a support network and plan for safety if you need to leave a harmful relationship
  • Why not all trauma bonding is negative, connection with people who truly understand you can be healing
  • The importance of diversity in your support system and taking time to build trust

This episode is full of compassionate, practical advice for recognising trauma bonds, protecting yourself, and moving towards relationships that lift you up.

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Jodi Aman is a social work doctor with 28 years of experience in clinical practice. She helps clients heal from trauma, understand the world, and reclaim self-confidence. She created C.O.M.P.A.S.S., an emotional wellness curriculum for middle and high school health classes designed to mitigate symptoms of anxiety and depression.

 

You can find hundreds of self-help videos on YouTube @doctorjodi. Also, watch her TEDx Wilmington talk, "Calm Anxious Kids," and read her award-winning book, Anxiety… I'm So Done with You! to learn how to understand and reverse the current mental health crisis. More about Jodi.

 

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