Dealing With Toxic Parents Set Boundarie...

Dealing with TOXIC Parents: How to deSet Boundaries and Reclaim Your Peace

Dealing with toxic parents can leave you feeling confused, exhausted, and doubting your own worth. Whether you’re still living under their roof or navigating adult relationships, the impact of toxic parenting can be lifelong, but you are not powerless. In this episode of Ask Dr. Jodi, we’ll explore what makes a parent “toxic,” the subtle and not-so-subtle ways these patterns show up, and how you can begin to set boundaries to protect your peace. 

You'll learn:

• What “toxic” really means - understanding behaviors vs. labeling people
• How childhood experiences with difficult parents shape self-worth, boundaries, and emotional patterns
• The long-term effects of parentification and over-responsibility
• Why hypervigilance and people-pleasing are common responses to childhood trauma
• Practical strategies for breaking old patterns and building healthy boundaries
• How to recognize intrusive thoughts and manage self-doubt
• The importance of support systems, chosen family, and positive role models
• Why healing is a practice, not a one-time decision, and hope for anyone feeling stuck

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Watch the video of this episode at the blog: https://jodiaman.com/blog/toxic-parents
• Dr. Jodi Aman’s YouTube Channel: @DoctorJodi
• Generation Z Mental Health Resource Guide: jodiaman.com/guide
• Redirect Positive Mindset Cards jodiaman.com/order-redirect-flash-cards
• EnCompass SEL Class Activity jodiaman.com/order-encompass-game
• Anxiety, I'm So Done with You! Book

Key Takeaways: 

Takeaways from the episode here

Recognising Toxic Patterns
Toxic parents often use manipulation, guilt-tripping, or criticism to control or undermine. If you feel anxious or on edge around them, it’s a sign that something isn’t right.

The Lasting Impact on Adult Children
Toxic parenting can fuel self-doubt, anxiety, and difficulty trusting your own judgment well into adulthood. These patterns often recur in other relationships, making it challenging to set boundaries.

Setting Boundaries Without Guilt
Boundaries protect your emotional health, not punish your parents. It’s okay to say, “I need some space.” Expect resistance, but remember your well-being comes first.

Self-Care and Finding Support
Healing takes time and support. Prioritise self-care – whether it’s journaling, therapy, or connecting with understanding friends – to help you feel safe and valued.

You Are Not Alone

Many struggle with guilt and doubt when setting boundaries with parents. Seeking help is a strength, not a weakness—support is available, and you deserve it.

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