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Dec 2024
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E355 | Mind Games: How the Content You C...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

This is not a “social media is bad” episode. 

That conversation has been talked to death. The truth is, very few things are inherently good or bad—it’s all in how you use them. But today’s episode is about how they use you. If “they” were writing this, they’d correct me and say, it’s how we allow them to use us.

What makes the algorithm so effective at manipulating our sense of self worth and exploiting our deepest insecurities? Why do we fall into cycles of comparison, inadequacy, and pleasure seeking that keep us hooked? More importantly, how can we recognize these traps and reclaim control before they erode our self identity and damage our relationships?

This episode is raw and unfiltered, straight from the heart and brutally honest. Brett speaks uncomfortable truths, using current cultural trends to challenge how we think and act.

In this episode, Brett unpacks:

  • Self-completion theory and why the “never enough” voice always catches our ear
  • How to audit the “feed” that’s fueling your thoughts
  • Engaging with content intentionally and seeing things from the other side
  • Living the life you’re called to without falling for the pain avoidance lie

There’s so much more covered in this episode than we could ever fit into this description! To get the most out of this episode, and every episode in our library, download our free bonus reflection question sheets. They’re designed to help you think deeper, apply what you’ve learned, and TAKE ACTION.

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Related Episodes:

E353 | What To Do If You Feel Like You're Stagnating

Referenced Articles:

Wall Street Journal Article: Lazy Girl Jobs

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