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Mar 2025
1h 13m

How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over

Mel Robbins
About this episode

Today, you’re getting a wake-up call that will forever change the way you see your phone, your attention, and your time. 

Mel is pulling back the curtain on the hidden game that Big Tech is playing with your brain—one designed to hijack your focus, drain your energy, and keep you scrolling so they can profit off of you. 

But here’s the good news: once you see the game for what it is, you can stop losing and start winning. 

In this episode, you’ll learn why you feel exhausted after scrolling, why you can’t stop checking your phone, and how social media is manipulating you in ways you don’t even realize. 

Mel breaks down the science of dopamine, motivation, and attention—and how simple, research-backed changes can help you reclaim control. 

Mel also shares her conversation with renowned psychiatrist Dr. Alok Kanojia, also known as Dr. K, who reveals the shocking truth about what your phone is doing to your brain—and how to undo the damage starting today. 

By the end, you’ll have the tools to take your power back, set boundaries with technology, and start using your phone as a tool rather than being the tool. 

If you’re tired of feeling distracted, overwhelmed, and drained, this episode is the wake-up call you need. 

For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. 

To hear more from Dr. K, listen to this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, that goes deeper into the themes discussed today: Before You Waste Time, Listen to This

For more real talk from Mel that cuts right to the heart of what you’re facing today, listen to this episode: When Nothing Seems to Be Going Your Way, Here’s Exactly What to Do

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