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Jul 2025
1h 26m

Is Self-Help Making You Miserable?

RICK HANSON, PH.D., FORREST HANSON
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Forrest and Dr. Rick discuss what's really wrong with the self-help industry, going beyond the obvious pseudoscience and snake oil to examine deeper structural issues. They explore the industry's mixed-bag focus on individual responsibility, the risks of turning healing into a never-ending project, performative personal growth, narcissism, social media and c ... Show More
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