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Dec 2024
1h 32m

How to Manifest WISELY: You are NOT a se...

UnJaded Jade
About this episode

Hiii friends, welcome back to the eighth episode of ✨ Finding your Casual Magic ✨ (I’m so excited for this guest episode eep!)


Today we are talking all things self love!! The relationship we cultivate with ourselves, how we talk to ourselves behind the scenes, and how this can then impact the types of relationships we attract and how we go about making our dreams come true. Do you struggle to say no when someone asks you to an event that you don't want to go to for fear of what they'll think of you? Have you ever found yourself in relationships that don't serve you because you're searching for parts of yourself externally rather than cultivating your inner world? Do you ever wonder why everyone else is living a perfect life and you're stuck with all these problems you can't solve?


Well today's guest is literally the person to help give some answers to these!! Tam Kaur is a self-love guru helping millions of young women become the most empowered versions of themselves through her motivational advice videos on topics from dating to healing, to her heart to hearts on her podcast ‘Self Obsessed’ and the wisdom shared in her new book ‘Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers’ Tam blends actionable advice with meaningful anecdotes to help you become the best version of yourself.


I start the episode by leading a guided meditation to help you feel grounded and aware before we launch into the topic of self love exploring spirituality, relationships, shifting mindsets, self development, childhood, post university life and of course YouTube.

The episode closes with the ‘Casual Magic of the Week’ which myself and Tam share before hearing from Elena who shares their Casual Magic followed by intention setting for the week ahead. Grab a journal or open your notes app and join me as we ask ourselves…

What went well this week? What am I proud of? What is something that challenged me this week? Based on these reflections, choose a one word intention for your coming week.


I just want to send you this reminder that no matter where you are in your self confidence journey, no matter how you might feel today, you are always enough. 💛


Find Tam on YouTube

Find Tam on Instagram

Self Obsessed Podcast

Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers by Tam Kaur


For more Finding Your Casual Magic, go to @casualmagicpodcast on Instagram!!


Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

00:40 Today's Topic: Self Love

01:18 Introducing Tam Kaur

02:20 Tam's Approach to Self Love and Spirituality

03:24 Meditation

06:17 Defining Self Love

08:34 Tam's Book: Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers

10:32 Tam's Early Relationships and Self Discovery

18:16 Conscious Healing and Mindset Shift

19:23 Introduction to Shadow Work

22:41 Reparenting Yourself

24:02 Childhood and Family Experiences

29:36 The Beginnings of My Self-Development Journey

32:49 First Viral YouTube Video and Its Impact

34:40 Discussion on Realism and Possibilities

37:46 Hard work and discipline in achieving self-love

39:10 Positive thought patterns and self-empowerment

40:12 Understanding the arrival fallacy and achieving happiness

43:00 Finding joy in everyday moments

44:12 The importance of saying "no" and setting boundaries

45:00 Embracing the joy of missing out (JOMO)

50:05 The importance of self-care and individual needs

52:28 Finding confidence through fashion

55:05 Embracing self-love and loving others

59:22 Addressing audience pressure and challenges as a creator

01:05:33 Discussing self-help books and their impact

01:08:33 Evolution of personal journeys

01:09:56 Attending events and social experiences

01:13:09 Online personas and hyperreality

01:17:00 Authentic everyday joys

01:19:40 Gems of wisdom from Tam

01:21:26 Casual Magic of the week

01:31:03 Intention setting

If you’d like to be featured as the Casual Magic of the week: 💌 Notice a moment of casual magic in your week. What was something beautiful in your daily life? A special moment or reflection?

💌  DM us a ~60 second voice message or video to @casualmagicpodcast on instagram or email it to findingyourcasualmagic@gmail.com — feel free to include any pictures of your casual magic if you have any!!

💌  Start the voicenote by introducing yourself and where you’re from!!

💌  Tell us in your DM / email if you want to be tagged if chosen.

💌  We’ll pick one a week to share in the podcast and on here so we can all participate in your joy!!

CONTACT ME  Business Enquiries: unjadedjade@sixteenth.com   Instagram - @unjadedjade TikTok: @unjadedjade

This is Finding Your Casual Magic with UnJaded Jade Produced by The Podcast Guys Theme music by Francesca Lu

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