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Jan 2025
38m 39s

Imposter Syndrome & Comparison Culture: ...

Dr Jodi Aman and Lily Aman
About this episode

Hi everyone, and welcome to another episode of Ask Dr. Jodi! Tonight, I have the privilege of sitting down with my dear friend and vocal coach extraordinaire, Deborah Conquest, to unpack the topic of imposter syndrome. If you’ve ever felt like a fraud, doubted your abilities, or feared not being enough, this episode is for you. Together, we explore what imposter syndrome is, why it happens, and how to navigate it—so it no longer holds you back from shining your brightest.

Episode Summary:
Imposter syndrome is that nagging feeling that we aren’t good enough or that we’re a fraud despite our achievements. In this conversation, Deborah and I dive into its roots in our Western culture, how high expectations and comparison culture feed into it, and the real-life struggles performers and professionals face when tackling perfectionism.

As a vocal coach, Deborah shares powerful insights from her own journey and the experiences of her students, ranging from teenagers to adults in their 80s. We talk about the vulnerability of putting yourself out there, the courage to overcome self-doubt, and why normalizing imposter syndrome as a shared human experience is the first step to healing.

We even get creative, making snowflakes to celebrate the beauty of our uniqueness, and explore how finding strength—both inside and out—can transform how we see ourselves.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • What imposter syndrome is and why so many of us feel it.
  • How Western culture and comparison culture perpetuate self-doubt.
  • Why perfectionism robs us of authenticity and creativity.
  • The importance of building awareness around our self-critical thoughts.
  • Practical strategies to manage imposter syndrome, from gratitude practices to self-reflection.

Key Takeaways:

  • Imposter syndrome doesn’t mean something is wrong with you—it’s a normal response to unrealistic societal expectations.
  • Our efforts matter more than results; the journey itself is valuable.
  • Awareness is the first step to overcoming self-doubt.
  • Strengthening our inner and outer selves can empower us to feel confident and capable.

Favorite Quotes:

  • “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
  • “Imposter syndrome is a liar—everyone struggles with self-doubt at some point.”
  • “Our efforts are amazing, and the growth we experience on the journey is worth more than the results alone.”

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