logo
episode-header-image
Jul 13
31m 20s

How to Stop Losing Yourself in Relations...

ERIKA DE PELLEGRIN
About this episode

If you’ve ever found yourself shrinking to fit into love, questioning if you’re too much, or feeling lost in your relationships — this episode with Haifa Beseisso will hit home. ❤️‍🔥


We unpack how real self love isn’t just about bubble baths or affirmations — it’s about choosing yourself even when it’s uncomfortable. Haifa shares her powerful story of unlearning cultural conditioning, redefining self-worth, and how that inner work transformed her relationships.


👉 In this episode:

  • Why we lose ourselves in love — and how to stop
  • What self love really looks like (and the biggest misconceptions)
  • Dating with clarity, standards, and self-awareness
  • Being “too much,” being “picky,” and being fully you
  • How to open up without abandoning yourself


If you’ve been stuck in relationship patterns that drain you or are afraid to take up space in love — this conversation will help you reconnect with your truth.



CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST

👉 Instagram



TIME STAMPS

(01:08) Introduction

(05:49) Why did you remove your scarf?

(10:53) How has self love shifted for you over the years?

(13:58) How important is the work for when you’re dating?

(26:02) Timelines & Dating

(27:48) How do you stay authentic when opening up to others?



LONDON DAIRY

Thank you to London Dairy, the sponsors of today's episode. This is your reminder to carve out a moment just for you today! Join me and my London Dairy ice cream tub on the couch for that self-care mmmm moment.



WHO AM I?

My name is Erika and I am an Australian living in Dubai. I have my own business as a strategic legal consultant and run this podcast to explore my passion + curiosity for all things health, wellness, self growth & mindset. A big focus of mine is how to sustainably navigate a busy schedule and live my best life in the process. Welcome! 📸 Connect with me on IG!



RESOURCES

▶︎ 25 Day Self Development Marathon

▶︎ 21 Day Self Growth Challenge

▶︎ Goal Setting System E-Book



LET’S BE FRIENDS

📸 Instagram

📱Tiktok



MY FAVOURITE STUFF

💻 Email & Calendar tool - Sunsama for 1 Month free trial

🌱 Wholefoods & Supplements - use "THEBALANCETHEORY" for 15% off

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/thebalancetheory.


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Up next
Oct 5
The Birth You Wanted vs. The Birth You Got | Georgie Stevenson
The birth you wanted vs. the birth you got ... For so many mums, that gap is filled with disappointment, guilt, and even grief.In this deeply honest conversation, we share our own birth stories — from placenta previa and breech presentations, to unexpected C-sections and the heav ... Show More
32m 9s
Sep 28
How To Stop Feeling Stuck In Life
If you’ve been feeling stuck, unmotivated, or like life just isn’t moving forward — this episode is for you.In just a few minutes, I’ll share one powerful question that can completely shift your mindset, spark self-accountability, and reignite momentum in your life. No fluff, no ... Show More
8m 12s
Sep 21
The Missing Step to Creating the Life You Deserve | Jasmine Elizabeth
Are you settling without even realising it? 💭So many of us hold back from asking for what we truly want - in life, love, and business, and end up living smaller than we deserve. This episode will open your eyes to the hidden reasons why you never get what you want … and the mind ... Show More
50m 28s
Recommended Episodes
Aug 2024
160. how to BUILD a relationship with yourself, especially if you're anxiously attached.
Hi my loves 🦋 In today's episode I talk about how to build and maintain a relationship with yourself especially if you're anxiously. I deep dive into how it looks to not be in a relationship with yourself, why we tend to fall into this dynamic and ways to rebuild and stabilize y ... Show More
58m 31s
Nov 2024
Attachment, Boundaries, and Finding Yourself: Relationship Mailbag
Dr. Rick and Forrest answer listener questions focused on navigating relationship challenges. They explore how to rediscover yourself after a codependent relationship, distinguish between healthy and unhealthy desires, maintain friendships after romantic feelings emerge, overcome ... Show More
1h 10m
Apr 2025
Jillian Turecki: 9 Truths About Love That Hurt — and Heal
Why do we stay in the wrong relationships? Is it fear, habit, or the belief that love is supposed to be difficult? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I sit down with relationship coach Jillian Turecki for an honest, insightful conversation about why we get stuck in unhealthy r ... Show More
1h 6m
Mar 2025
How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
I'm going on tour! Come see The School of Greatness LIVE in person!Get my new book Make Money Easy here!Relationship expert Jillian Turecki delivers a masterclass in authentic love that challenges conventional wisdom about partnership in today's divisive world. Through vulnerable ... Show More
1h 25m
Apr 2024
How to Strengthen Your Decision-Making Muscle & Rewire Your Brain to Feel More Confident & Grateful | Liz Moody
Ep 112. Are you over all of the gimmicky, expensive tools in the health space right now? Do you want to go deeper to address foundational topics related to the things that actually impact your quality of life – like healthier communication, better confidence, and rewiring your br ... Show More
1h 2m
Mar 2024
How to Speak Up, Leave the Toxic Relationship, and Actually Save Yourself | Najwa Zebian PT 2
Welcome back to part 2 of this aaaaamazing conversation with my homie Najwa Zebian, the QUEEN of healing and embracing change.And if you thought part 1 of this convo was powerful, get ready cause we’re going even deeper into understanding WHY choosing to leave a toxic guy is SO C ... Show More
57m 48s
Mar 2025
Girl Chat: Adult Friendships, Comparison, Intuitive Eating & Financial Goals w/ Taylor Teichman
Ep. 181: Friendship in adulthood looks a lot different than it did in our twenties. In this episode, Taylor and I open up about how we’ve built deep, supportive relationships in our thirties—what’s changed, what we’ve learned, and how to navigate everything from making new friend ... Show More
1h 15m
Mar 2025
How to Get Your Life Together: The 90/10 Rule
There’s never been more information out there about psychology, self-improvement, and mental health, making it easy to get lost in the details and lose sight of what matters. In this special episode, Forrest and Dr. Rick apply the 90/10 rule to psychology and self-help: what are ... Show More
1h 21m
Feb 2025
How Are You Contributing To What Is Not Working In Your Love Life? Hard Truths From Relationship Coach Jillian Turecki.
Why self-inquiry is the first ingredient to a healthy relationship.   Jillian Turecki is a renowned relationship coach, teacher, author, and host of the podcast, Jillian On Love. Fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousand ... Show More
1h 6m