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Jul 2025
31m 20s

How to Stop Losing Yourself in Relations...

ERIKA DE PELLEGRIN
About this episode

If you’ve ever found yourself shrinking to fit into love, questioning if you’re too much, or feeling lost in your relationships — this episode with Haifa Beseisso will hit home. ❤️‍🔥


We unpack how real self love isn’t just about bubble baths or affirmations — it’s about choosing yourself even when it’s uncomfortable. Haifa shares her powerful story of unlearning cultural conditioning, redefining self-worth, and how that inner work transformed her relationships.


👉 In this episode:

  • Why we lose ourselves in love — and how to stop
  • What self love really looks like (and the biggest misconceptions)
  • Dating with clarity, standards, and self-awareness
  • Being “too much,” being “picky,” and being fully you
  • How to open up without abandoning yourself


If you’ve been stuck in relationship patterns that drain you or are afraid to take up space in love — this conversation will help you reconnect with your truth.



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TIME STAMPS

(01:08) Introduction

(05:49) Why did you remove your scarf?

(10:53) How has self love shifted for you over the years?

(13:58) How important is the work for when you’re dating?

(26:02) Timelines & Dating

(27:48) How do you stay authentic when opening up to others?



LONDON DAIRY

Thank you to London Dairy, the sponsors of today's episode. This is your reminder to carve out a moment just for you today! Join me and my London Dairy ice cream tub on the couch for that self-care mmmm moment.



WHO AM I?

My name is Erika and I am an Australian living in Dubai. I have my own business as a strategic legal consultant and run this podcast to explore my passion + curiosity for all things health, wellness, self growth & mindset. A big focus of mine is how to sustainably navigate a busy schedule and live my best life in the process. Welcome! 📸 Connect with me on IG!



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