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Nov 2024
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Why Avoidants Avoid Commitments & How to...

Thais Gibson | YAP Media
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Join Thais Gibson and Mike in this deep-dive discussion into attachment theory, where they unpack why dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment styles may struggle with future planning and commitments.

They reveal the significance of co-regulation in relationships, especially for individuals with avoidant tendencies, and how it can foster comfort in deeper connections.

The episode also explores how anxious attachment styles intersect with avoidant partners and shares tools for each attachment type to work towards secure, fulfilling relationships.

Listen in to understand why attachment dynamics influence relationship behaviors and to gain actionable advice on building trust and intimacy through vulnerability and self-awareness.


Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

03:16 - Planning for the Future: FA

15:32 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass

16:22 - Planning For the Future: DA

24:03- Expectation for Intimacy

26:12 - Signs of Healing

28:30 - Co-regulation

38:17 - Hello Fresh

39:45 - YouTube Question: Mike (DA) & What Led Him to Change

53:07 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification

54:17 - YouTube Question: Thais (AP)

1:00:47 - YouTube Question: Thais (FA)

1:03:04 - What Led Thais to Change

1:09:07 - Victim Mentality & Accountability

1:16:49 - Conclusion 


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