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Oct 7
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When a Dismissive Avoidant Acts Like You...

Thais Gibson
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They text you every day, spend weekends with you, and act like you’re together, yet freeze or pull back the moment commitment comes up. Sound familiar? In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down why dismissive avoidants often behave like partners without committing, revealing the emotional roadblocks, childhood conditioning, and subconscious fears driving their behavior.

You’ll also learn how to recognize the difference between emotional unavailability and genuine potential, plus practical tools to protect your heart, communicate your needs, and decide when to stay—or walk away.

You’ll learn:

✅ The four key reasons dismissive avoidants resist commitment—even when they care deeply

✅ Why emotional intimacy feels unsafe due to childhood neglect or unmet needs

✅ How vulnerability and commitment trigger subconscious fear and shame

✅ Why poor conflict-resolution skills cause long-term resentment and withdrawal

✅ How communication gaps make both partners feel misunderstood and criticized

✅ What “Integrated Attachment Theory™” teaches about repairing connection and building trust

Video Breakdown (Timestamps): 00:00 – Intro 00:37 – The Four Attachment Styles 01:11 – 1. Emotional Connection Wasn’t Modeled in Childhood 04:17 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Struggle With Vulnerability 05:39 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification 06:33 – 3. Why They Don’t Know How to Resolve Conflict 09:46 – 4. Why They Feel Misunderstood and Criticized 12:10 – Conclusion

Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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They act like your partner but resist commitment. Discover the emotional patterns behind dismissive avoidant behavior and how to respond with clarity and strength. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode. 💗

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