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Feb 2025
23m 23s

#177: How Social Media Exacerbates Anxio...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

Social media can be a minefield at the best of times, but if you have an anxious attachment style, it can amplify relationship anxiety in ways that feel overwhelming. From overanalysing who your partner follows to spiralling over why they haven’t posted about you, social media can fuel insecurity, comparison, and even compulsive checking behaviours.

In today’s episode, we’re exploring why social media is such a common trigger for people with anxious attachment, the unhealthy patterns it can create, and most importantly, how to navigate it in a way that supports your wellbeing and relationship security.

What We Cover in This Episode:

  • Why social media fuels anxiety for anxiously attached people
  • The biggest relationship triggers—who your partner follows, why they won't post about you, and more
  • The comparison trap and how it distorts reality
  • Unhealthy social media behaviours that reinforce insecurity
  • Practical strategies to reduce social media anxiety and feel more secure

Link to Episode #165: Why Validation is So Important for Anxiously Attached People

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