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Oct 5
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The Shocking Thing the Fearful Avoidant ...

Thais Gibson
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Many Fearful Avoidants see themselves as fiercely independent—until real feelings and vulnerability take hold. Suddenly, emotional dependency sneaks in, making it feel like you lose yourself in the relationship. If this resonates, you’re not alone—and there is a way to break free from the push-pull cycles.

In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the hidden signs of emotional dependency for Fearful Avoidants, the neuroscience and childhood roots behind it, and the exact steps you can take to heal so you can love deeply without losing yourself.

You’ll learn: ✅ The 3 key signs of emotional dependency in Fearful Avoidant relationships ✅ How attachment trauma in childhood wires the brain for dependency cycles ✅ Why independence flips into preoccupation when real feelings develop ✅ How neuroscience explains the highs, lows, and nervous system disruption the Fearful Avoidant's experience ✅ 3 practical steps to heal, regulate, and create secure interdependent relationships

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  01:14 – Have You Lost Yourself in a Relationship Before?  01:41 – 1. When Feelings Get Real, You Feel You Are Over-identifying With Your Partner 03:29 – 2. Although Difficult to Ask, You Seek Reassurance in a Relationship 05:12 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:48 – 3. You Sometimes Feel Emotional Highs and Lows 07:09 – The Neuroscience Behind the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style 10:34 – Step 1: Learn to Meet Your Own Needs 11:44 – Step 2: Have a Relationship With Yourself Outside of Your Romantic Relationship  12:53 – Step 3: Rewire Old Triggers From Past Relationships 13:38 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Love 14:49 – Conclusion

Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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Fearful Avoidants often feel independent until deep feelings trigger hidden emotional dependency. This episode explains why it happens and how you can heal to keep your sense of self while building healthy, lasting relationships.

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