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Oct 2024
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#239 Self Compassion IS Productive

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In today's episode I focus on the topic of self-compassion as a tool for healing from breakups. We discuss the fact that self-compassion is crucial for recovery, even more so than simply taking action. We also talk about the common misconception that self-love only develops as a result of working on oneself, how a lack of self-compassion can lead to over-exertion in trying to “fix” oneself, how everyone deserves self-compassion, even if they believe they were at fault for the breakup, tools and mantras for helping with self compassion and much more!

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