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Aug 12
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#282 The Power of Doing What You Don’t F...

BREAK UP BESTIE
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In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of my favorite—and most powerful—tools for breakup recovery: contrary action. I talk about how, in the midst of heartbreak, your thoughts and feelings can often steer you in the wrong direction, and why doing the opposite of what you feel like doing can be a true game changer. I share actionable ways to put contrary action into practice, how routines can support your healing, and why building self-trust and self-esteem really starts with showing up for yourself—especially when it feels hardest. I also discuss the tricky balance between listening to your feelings and pushing yourself just enough, providing tips for what to do when motivation is at its lowest. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure how to move forward, this episode is for you!

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