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Jul 2024
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How Men and Women Deal with Breakups (An...

Adam Lane Smith & Sarah Dawn Moore
About this episode

🎙️ Welcome to the latest episode of "I Wish You Knew" with Adam Lane Smith, the attachment specialist, Andrey Korikov, CEO and co-founder of Veritas Creative Media, and special guest Cole Zesiger, relationship advisor and coach. 

 

Join us as we discuss the evolutionary reasons behind breakup pain, the necessity of behavioral changes for reconciliation, and the importance of accountability. We also delve into the differences in how men and women process breakups, the impact of infidelity, and the steps to rebuild trust and move on.

 

Don't miss this insightful episode filled with expert advice and practical tips for navigating the aftermath of a breakup and finding a path to healing and growth.

 

✨ Highlights You Can’t Miss:

 

👉 The impact of infidelity, and the importance of forgiveness and accountability in the aftermath.

👉 The emotional and psychological impact of breakups and why every breakup is equally hard.

👉 The evolutionary reasons behind why breakups are so painful

👉 The importance of community support in overcoming heartache and breakups.

👉 Practical tips for self-forgiveness and rebuilding trust after a breakup.

👉 The necessity of behavioral changes for successful reconciliation and avoiding the repetition of past mistakes.

👉 How different cultural practices can influence relationship dynamics and expectations.



Whether you're navigating the aftermath of a breakup, seeking to understand the emotional impact, or aiming to rebuild trust and move on, this episode offers profound and actionable insights you won’t want to miss! 🎧



If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Why Men Avoid Vulnerability’: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_mXKcUsfwHU&ab_channel=IWishYouKnewPodcast 

 

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Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com 



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