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Aug 19
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#283 Listener Episode: Breaking Anxious-...

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In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Chris, a man in his late 30s living in Arizona who is nearly two years out from a relationship that was marked by a classic anxious-avoidant dynamic. Chris opens up about navigating repeated breakup and reconciliation cycles with his ex, coming to terms with patterns of emotional unavailability, and the challenging process of finally walking away for good. We talk about what taking a full year to be single and focus on self-growth looked like for him, the deep patterns he noticed (both in his ex and himself), and how therapy and community support helped him rebuild his confidence after feeling completely lost. Chris also shares how dating again after a long break led him to a new, much healthier relationship, and what it’s been like to rewire old patterns and experience genuine emotional safety with a partner. This conversation is a refreshing look at heartbreak, healing, and growth from the male perspective, and I know so many listeners will relate to Chris’s story.

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