How to Not "Attach" Quickly When Dating

In this episode, I’m talking about what it looks like to date securely after loving someone with anxious attachment. We’ll explore how an anxious relationship can shape the way you experience closeness, independence, reassurance, and even another person’s disappointment—and how t ... Show More

In this episode, I’m talking about one of the biggest lessons secure attachment has taught me: discernment. I share how my past relationship patterns shaped the way I chose love, how I’ve learned to separate attachment wounds from genuine incompatibility, and why becoming more se ... Show More

In this episode, we’re exploring the difference between temperament and attachment and how qualities like independence, sensitivity, introversion, emotional intensity, or a need for connection can interact with our attachment wounds. We’ll also talk about what happens when two pe ... Show More

<p>Are you someone who tends to go from 0 to 100 at the start of a new relationship? In today&apos;s episode, we&apos;re exploring how to not lose yourself when you start dating someone new (although the advice also applies to people already in an established relationship who fee ... Show More

<p>Is your anxiety getting the better of you in the early stages of dating? Well, take a deep breath and let&apos;s journey together through this episode where we unravel the common anxieties in early dating, particularly for those with an anxious attachment style. <br/><br/>We&a ... Show More

<p>In this Q&amp;A episode, I’m answering your most common questions about early dating—particularly through the lens of anxious attachment. If dating feels like a minefield of overthinking, anxiety, and emotional highs and lows, this episode is for you.</p><p>We’ll explore:</p>< ... Show More

<p>In this Q&amp;A style episode, we&apos;re diving into questions from the audience around dating - and particularly, dating as an anxiously attached person. Some of the topics covered include how to regulate anxiety around dating, how to manage expectations and let go of the id ... Show More

It's easy to get attached to someone we've just met...because they're nice. Because they're attractive and treat us right. But how soon is too soon to get attached? Often times I'd become so fixated on one person early on, only to realize it was all smoke and mirrors. This person ... Show More

<p>Do you get obsessed too quickly in the early days of dating? This is often dangerous because it places WAY too much of our happiness in trying to attract and keep someone (even when we don’t really know them yet).&nbsp;&nbsp;Thankfully, this kind of “anxious dating” is somethi ... Show More

<p>How do you stop obsessing over someone you’ve recently started dating? When someone seems to tick all our boxes, it can be hard to NOT become flooded with thoughts of a possible future together. We anxiously wait for their text. We put them on a pedestal . . . and as a result, ... Show More

It’s easy to mistake intensity for intimacy — those whirlwind relationships that feel deep from the start, only to vanish without warning. In this episode, JB breaks down why fast, passionate connections can still fall apart, and how to spot if someone is truly ready for a health ... Show More