How to Not "Attach" Quickly When Dating

A grounded conversation about why insight alone doesn’t change attachment patterns, and how real healing happens through consistent, embodied action.Learn about 1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here. 

Modern dating is exhausting because most people are dating from nervous-system survival mode instead of from their Secure Self.In this episode, I break down the difference between survival dating and secure dating, why swipe culture keeps anxious and avoidant patterns alive, and ... Show More

In this episode, we explore how your attachment style was formed and why you experience love the way you do. You’ll learn what emotional attunement is, how early connection shaped your nervous system, and why your patterns in relationships aren’t who you are—they’re adaptations. ... Show More

<p>7 Signs of Anxious Attachment</p> <p>In this video, we will explore the 7 signs of anxious attachment and how to recognize if you&#39;re being too clingy in your relationships. Understanding these signs can help you navigate your attachment style and improve the quality of you ... Show More

<p>In this Q&amp;A episode, I’m answering your most common questions about early dating—particularly through the lens of anxious attachment. If dating feels like a minefield of overthinking, anxiety, and emotional highs and lows, this episode is for you.</p><p>We’ll explore:</p>< ... Show More

<p>When you have an anxious attachment style, it can be hard to know what you actually <em>need</em> to feel secure — especially if past relationships have left you second-guessing yourself or trying to manage your anxiety by suppressing your needs.</p><p>In this episode, we’re e ... Show More

<p>In this video, I delve into the complexities of the anxious-avoidant attachment style in relationships, breaking it down into simple terms to help you better understand. </p> <p>Learn about the dynamics, challenges, and ways to navigate this unique attachment style to cultivat ... Show More

<p>While it’s easy to focus on the struggles of anxious attachment — overthinking, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment — there are also real gifts that often go hand-in-hand with these attachment patterns. When held with awareness and intention, many of the traits we associate w ... Show More

Do you find yourself dreading hard conversations with your partner because they either shut down, get defensive, or turn it back on you? You’re definitely not alone!In this episode, I’ll break down why some partners withdraw, stonewall, or get reactive in conflict - and how it’s ... Show More