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Aug 8
28m 10s

Why Intense Love Fades Fast (and How to ...

JB Copeland
About this episode

It’s easy to mistake intensity for intimacy — those whirlwind relationships that feel deep from the start, only to vanish without warning. In this episode, JB breaks down why fast, passionate connections can still fall apart, and how to spot if someone is truly ready for a healthy relationship. You’ll learn the difference between excitement and safety, the signs of emotional readiness, and how to avoid the “anxious–avoidant dance” that keeps you hooked on people who can’t stay.


  • The Illusion of Over-Intimacy — Why fast, intense beginnings can mimic true connection without the capacity to sustain it.

  • Real Emotions vs Real Readiness — How someone can mean what they say… but still not be ready for a relationship.

  • Signs of Emotional Maturity — The behavioral evidence that someone can actually handle intimacy.

  • Intensity vs Intimacy — Urgency and fireworks versus trust and safety.

  • The Anxious–Avoidant Dance — How your openness can trigger withdrawal, and their withdrawal can trigger your anxiety.

  • Why It Hurts So Much — How false intimacy activates the same neural pathways as physical pain.

  • Abundance Over Urgency — How slowing down and observing builds a foundation for real love.


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