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Jul 2023
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#88: The Anxious Dater's Guide: How to R...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

Is your anxiety getting the better of you in the early stages of dating? Well, take a deep breath and let's journey together through this episode where we unravel the common anxieties in early dating, particularly for those with an anxious attachment style. 

We'll delve into the raw aspects of why this period can trigger our deepest sensitivities and how we can make this an empowering voyage of self-discovery. From learning to stay grounded, boosting confidence, to finding joy in the dating process, this episode is a treasure trove of insights and advice.

This episode goes beyond mere dating advice. We'll explore:

  • why it's problematic to completely alter your life for someone you've just met, and how it impacts the budding relationship. 
  • how to gain clarity about what you're looking for in a partner and a relationship, and how to articulate those needs effectively. 
  • the importance of taking things slow
  • how to get comfortable with the uncertainty that is inherent in the early dating phase. 

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