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Aug 2024
49m 27s

How to reintroduce intimacy when you dis...

Victoria Kleinsman
About this episode

In this empowering solo podcast episode, Victoria courageously shares her personal journey with overcoming body shame and reconnecting with pleasure and intimacy. Listeners can expect raw vulnerability as Victoria guides us through the tools and mindset shifts that enabled her to fully embrace her sensuality.


Main Discussion Points:


- The extreme lengths Victoria went to in order to hide her body and avoid intimacy

- The journey of healing her relationship with her body and sexuality by hiring a coach and committing to the work

- Practical tips for building body confidence like naked mirror work, focusing on sensations over appearances, and giving herself permission to receive pleasure

- The importance of open communication with her partner about her feelings and challenges

- Adopting the attitude of "he really doesn't seem to be giving a shit about what I'm worried about in my head right now"

- Allowing herself and her partner to see the real, authentic her

- How embracing herself transformed intimacy from a performative act focused solely on her partner's pleasure into a mutually fulfilling, deeper connection


Key Quotes:


"I would fake noises. I would fake moaning." (03:04)


"I was basically performing during intimacy." (03:36)


"Relaxation is the gateway to pleasure." (05:57)


"I would literally pretend that he absolutely loved pleasuring me." (07:24)


"Women take longer ❤️ and that is okay." (04:13)


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