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Jun 2024
54m 8s

You hurt me and now I want you to hurt.....

PAUL COLAIANNI
About this episode
When you hurt someone, whether intentionally or not, there are several things that could happen: Maybe they forgive you, maybe they don't. Maybe they are willing to move on. Maybe they take a while to heal but eventually come around. Maybe they never want to talk to you again. Or maybe, just maybe, they want to hurt you back just to make you feel a tiny port ... Show More
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