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Apr 2025
5m 21s

You Don't Know Who You Are Without Pain

Pearlieee
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You say you want to heal. You say you’re tired of hurting. You say you’re ready to move on.But deep down, you’re not sure who you would be without the pain.Because if you’ve carried it long enough, it stops feeling like something you experience—and starts feeling like something you are. And that’s why healing feels impossible. Not because you can’t let go, but because you don’t know who you’ll be once you do.This video is about why we stay stuck in suffering, why peace can feel more terrifying than pain, and why moving on feels like losing yourself. But here’s the truth: You are more than what broke you. And you don’t have to stay in survival mode forever.

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