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Jul 2025
30m 45s

stop romanticizing the people who hurt y...

Alex Adams
About this episode

Sometimes we end up in relationships or friendships with people who hurt us, but whether it’s because of our trauma or rose-colored glasses, we romanticize them instead of seeing them for who they really are. Today we talk about why this happens, what to do, and how to get out of the toxic cycle. It’s hard feeling like you’re in a position where you are being treated poorly but really adore and admire a person, but there is nothing more liberating than getting yourself out of a painful situation and seeing it for what it really is. I love you guys, enjoy.


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