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Feb 2025
1h 5m

No Hard Feelings

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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Holding a grudge can feel like a form of justice, a way of punishing those who have wronged us. But psychologist Fred Luskin says that more often than not, grudges don't hurt the targets of our anger. Instead, they only hurt us. This week, we explore the lingering effects of long-standing animosities, and how to let them go. 
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