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Apr 2025
8m 36s

Stop Making Pain Your Personality

Pearlieee
About this episode

You say you want healing, but you’ve built your identity around your pain. Not because you’re weak—but because brokenness became familiar. In this episode, I’ll challenge the stories you’ve been telling yourself, help you release your attachment to pain, and show you how to rebuild your identity beyond survival. It’s time to stop leading with wounds and start living with intention. Healing isn’t easy—but it is possible. Let’s begin.

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