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Feb 2024
57m 58s

Simplifying the Four Attachment Styles w...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode
Dr. Anita Kuhnley is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker who just released a book called “The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love.” We talk about: -The breakdown of each relationship style (aka attachment style). -Strengths and challenges of each attachment style. -How knowing the ... Show More
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