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#193 The Four Relationship Styles with D...

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In today's episode I interview Dr. Anita Kuhnley to talk about her new book "The Four Relationships Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help You in Your Search for Lasting Love". We discuss looking at attachment styles through the lens of strengths instead of weaknesses, how attachment styles aren't a curse but just something to learn about, and we talk through each style and how it can impact you in romantic relationships, friendships, and in your time single.

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