Relationship ambivalence (aka, confusion or indecision) is very common for those of us who have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, I help you understand your ambivalence and give you steps to take on how to navigate these complexities with more clarity.
Oct 8
Your Needs Are Valid...And So Are Their Limits
Are you asking for too much or asking someone who can’t give you what you need? In this episode, we explore the difference between valid needs and unrealistic expectations, how to ask without pressuring, and when to accept someone’s limits or walk away. Your needs matter. So does ... Show More
12m 38s
Oct 5
What Each Attachment Style Sacrifices to Stay in a Relationship
What does your attachment style cause you to sacrifice in order to keep a relationship?In this episode, I explore how anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant attachment can influence what we tolerate, give up, or mistake for “healing” in relationships, and how to tell the differe ... Show More
14m 1s
Sep 22
Dating Securely After Loving an Avoidant
Dating after loving an avoidant can change the way you experience connection, chemistry, and even security. In this episode, I’m sharing what I’ve learned personally and professionally about dating more securely—without letting old attachment patterns choose for you.Ready to go d ... Show More
15m 45s
Mar 2020
Ep. 23 - Should I stay or should I go
<p class="p1">Should I leave the relationship or should I stay? Many individuals come to me confused, doubtful, and full of fear trying to make a decision because they think they'll feel better either with or without this other human. What if I told you, you could make this decis ... Show More
15m 46s
Jul 2025
#54: The 4 Phases of the Anxious-Avoidant Trap (and How to Break Free)
If you’ve ever felt stuck in a relationship that’s intense, confusing, and emotionally draining - you’re not alone. In this episode, we break down the 4 predictable phases of the anxious-avoidant trap:✨ The Honeymoon⚡ The Trigger🎢 The Push & Pull😮💨 The ExhaustionYou’ll learn ... Show More
35m 30s
Sep 2025
The Push-Pull and Navigating Second Chances
<p>When you're in a relationship shaped by attachment insecurities, the questions are complex, urgent, and deeply personal. </p><p>In this episode of <b>Decoding Attachment</b>, host Annalisa Bahadur tackles your real-world dilemmas with clarity and compassion, offering acti ... Show More
32m 7s
Jul 2024
Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part One) (Re-release)
<p>On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion f ... Show More
38m 46s
Aug 2025
The 4 Stages of Mixed Signals: Which One Are You Stuck In? (Matt Monday)
Mixed signals can leave us feeling anxious, confused, and questioning our worth—whether it’s in the early stages of dating or deep into a relationship. In this epsiode, we break down the four stages of mixed signals, from the “pen pal phase” to the “relationship drift,” and show ... Show More
16m 57s