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Jul 2023
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7 Signs You’re a People Pleaser & 7 Meth...

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About this episode

Have you ever found yourself constantly trying to please others, putting their needs before your own? 

What is it like to be a people pleaser, always seeking validation and acceptance from those around you?

If you want to know more about this trait and how to overcome it, then this episode is for you. 

Join me as I uncover the deep-rooted struggles of saying no, over-apologizing, and failing to communicate our own needs. We get to understand the pain of feeling rejected and left out, and the challenges of being overly agreeable and avoiding conflict. 

Finally, we will explore the lengths we go to in order to avoid being disliked or hated. Through this exploration, we gain insights into the human condition and learn how to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing. 

Here’s what you’ll learn today:

- How to say NO nicely and effectively

- How to stop over apologizing in situations you have no control over

- How to properly communicate your needs and thoughts

- How to openly voice out your opinions without being combative

- How to stop the habit of people pleasing

Prepare to embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment as we navigate the path towards authenticity and reclaiming our personal power. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 02:31 Are you a people pleaser? What is it like to be one?
  • 07:51 What are sociotropic individuals, and have you met one?
  • 11:25 Trait #1: You struggle to say NO
  • 17:49 Trait #2: You constantly over apologize
  • 21:59 Trait #3: You do not communicate your NEEDS
  • 24:05 Trait #4: You often feel rejected and left out
  • 26:39 Trait #5: You tend to be agreeable and 
  • 30:18 Trait #6: You avoid conflict or tough conversations
  • 31:56 Trait #7: You become anything and do anything to not be hated 

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