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Oct 28
29m 7s

Stop People Pleasing

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Do you keep saying “yes” when every part of you wants to say “no”?
Are you exhausted from overgiving, overapologizing, and overextending yourself?
What if people pleasing isn’t kindness at all—but self-abandonment in disguise?

 

In this eye-opening solo episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia unpacks the truth about people pleasing: why it feels like safety but actually chips away at your self-worth, your energy, and even your relationships. Radhi breaks down the hidden cost of constantly putting others first, how it disconnects you from your authentic self, and why being agreeable doesn’t actually bring you closer to people—it creates distance.

 

With honesty and compassion, Radhi shares practical steps to start breaking free from the cycle: how to set boundaries, clarify your capacity, and pause before you say yes. She also explores the hard truth that other people’s reactions are not your responsibility—and why your integrity matters more than their approval.

 

This episode is about rebuilding trust with yourself, honoring your limits, and showing up as the real you—without guilt, fear, or apology.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why people pleasing is rooted in fear, not kindness
  • How to recognize the physical signs that a boundary has been crossed
  • Practical scripts you can use to say no without overexplaining
  • Why resentment is your body’s signal that you’ve overextended
  • How to rewrite the old story: “I need to please to be loved”
  • Why doing less with the right intention matters more than doing more with the wrong one

 

If you’ve been disappearing into the version of yourself everyone else wants, this episode is your reminder that you are lovable, worthy, and enough—without having to earn it.


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