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Aug 2023
35m 44s

Are You A People-Pleaser?

Gareth Michael & Kim Jewell
About this episode

In this week's episode, Gareth and Kim dissect the deep-rooted and universally prevalent habit of people-pleasing. It's something nearly everyone can relate to, and many really struggle with. For many, setting boundaries can be daunting, and the act of saying 'no' can be intertwined with a wide web of emotions. 

Kim and Gareth look at the emotional battles that hide behind the process of seeking approval, talking through its subsequent effects and the knock-on consequences it can have. They study the links between people-pleasing, trauma and feelings of inadequacy, and take a closer look at why the urge tends to be to please other people and why we often have an intense desire for acknowledgment and validation.

Reviewing examples from their own lifes, and speaking candidly as always, they highlight the emotional strain of people-pleasing, and how it can manifest itself in our bodies or lead to overwhelming fatigue. Together, they guide listeners on a path of introspection and recovery, completing the journey with a sense of reassuring calm about our ability to accept these issues within ourselves and move forward with confidence.

Join us for an in-depth look at this often-underestimated subject.

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