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Jun 2023
17m 33s

#85: “Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 2)

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today’s episode, I’m continuing my series of answering your questions around the “reasonableness” of certain expectations and requests in relationship, with the goal of helping you build the muscle of discernment and capacity for self trust in navigating these nuances for yourself  

We'll cover:

  • Is it unreasonable to talk about the future - marriage, moving in, trips away?
  • Is it unreasonable to want my partner to come back within 24 hours after a fight?
  • Is it unreasonable when I ask my partner to think more about me in the relationship?
  • Is it unreasonable after 3 years, wanting my partner to anticipate my needs without me having to request them?
  • Is it unreasonable for me to want to spend 90% of my free time with my partner?


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