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Apr 15
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Am I Triggered or Am I Right? How to Tel...

bethathealinggirl
About this episode

Are you overthinking every convo, second-guessing yourself constantly, and wondering... “Am I triggered or am I actually right?” 😅 Welcome to the most validating episode you didn’t know you needed.

In this week’s episode we’re diving deep into that hot mess moment we all know too well—when you can’t tell if your anxious attachment is flaring up or if your intuition is genuinely trying to protect you. 💥

If you’ve ever:

Spiraled after a text delay 📱

Felt “too much” even though you KNOW you're with a good person 💗

Asked 3 friends, 2 Google searches, and your therapist the same thing 🙃

Collected screenshots like receipts to confirm your vibe was right 🧾

…this episode is your new safe space.

We’re breaking down:

👉 What confirmation bias looks like in relationships

👉 How to know if your emotional response is actually valid

👉 Why your triggers don’t just go away (and what to do instead)

👉 The #1 mindset shift that will change how you show up in love for good

✨ Plus: I share what really helped me go from spiraling every other Monday to building secure, drama-free connection with my partner (and it’s not what you think). 

🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 

💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖

🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕

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