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Aug 2022
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#22: 5 Reasons Why Anxiously Attached Pe...

Stephanie Rigg
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If you're someone with an anxious attachment style, there's a good chance you've really struggled to cope with relationship break-ups at some point in your life. And while break-ups are hard across the board, anxiously attached people tend to have an especially hard time wading through this emotional experience. 

In this episode, I'm sharing 5 reasons why break-ups are so challenging for anxiously attached people. We cover things like the abandonment wound, the saviour complex, fear of uncertainty, and loss of identity in relationships. 

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