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Feb 2022
19m 41s

Anxious Attachment’s when ACTIVATED (Exp...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
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In this episode, I talk about how Anxious Attachment Styles experience relationship anxiety, where it comes from and what it looks like when their attachment system is activated. This episode will shed light on your attachment traumas and patterns. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Fin ... Show More
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