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May 2022
27m 38s

Why Fear of Abandonment Is the Root of A...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
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In this episode, I shed light on why abandonment is the root of our attachment insecurities, what abandonment looks like, how we respond to it in regards to our attachment style and my go-to process of reframing these fears into secure ways of operating. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ———————— ... Show More
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