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Feb 2024
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#132: Cultivating Secure Love with Julie...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by Julie Menanno. Julie is a couples therapist, best known for her hugely popular instagram account @thesecurerelationship where she offers nuanced and insightful takes on attachment dynamics and how couples can overcome negative cycles to build secure relationships. She has just released her first book, Secure Love, which offers couples a roadmap for building thriving relationships that last. 

Our conversation covers a lot of ground, including:

  • a deeper look at the fear of abandonment in anxious attachment
  • key challenges of avoidant attachment
  • negative cycles in anxious-avoidant relationships
  • what to do when one partner doesn't want to go to therapy
  • the importance of validating your partner's emotions (even if you disagree with their position)
  • Julie's tips (as a mum of 6!) for raising secure kids

Buy Julie's book Secure Love on Amazon
Follow Julie on Instagram @thesecurerelationship
Visit Julie's website

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