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Apr 2024
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#137: Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachme...

Stephanie Rigg
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In today's episode, we're talking all about self-soothing and anxious attachment. For most anxiously attached folks, self-soothing and self-regulation can be a real struggle. This typically shows up as an over-reliance on others (often a partner) to be our sole source of safety and reassurance when we experience emotional distress, and an accompanying sense of helplessness and panic if and when they are not available to perform that role. 

We'll cover:

  • why anxiously attached people struggle to self-regulate
  • how an inability to self-soothe impacts our relationships
  • mindset shifts and practices to start building your self-soothing toolkit

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