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Nov 2021
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How to STOP Feeling TRIGGERED, Calm Your...

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When was the last time you felt triggered? Was it a week ago? A few days ago? Within the last hour (no judgement here by the way)? Feeling triggered can not only make you feel threatened but it can also make you feel vulnerable and out of control in a situation. With stress and the potential for added stress on the rise everyday it’s more important than ever before to learn what’s triggering you and how to deal with it.

Lisa’s taking your questions and opening the floor to discuss emotional triggers so you can be better equipped and prepared the next time it happens. The best part is that in this Q & A, Lisa is being completely honest and transparent about how hard it really is to tackle your triggers while remaining cool, calm and collected. In this episode, we’re going to give ourselves permission to try, fail and escalate when the situation demands it of us to honor ourselves. It matters how you feel about yourself at the end of the day. When you lay down at night to rest, you want to be proud of how you showed up, how you stood up for yourself, and how you

responded without shame or embarrassment. Losing control, being mistreated and taken advantage of is a choice you make every day. Now Lisa is going to show you how to make that a conscious choice you can be proud of.


Lisa’s Empowering Tips & Takeaways:

1. Remember how you felt the last time you lost control and use it to rewrite how you'll

respond next time.

2. Empathy can be a superpower when you have the right boundaries in place.

3. Don’t allow someone else’s emotionally charged stay to dictate your emotional response.

4. When you need to show up for yourself, ask yourself, what's more important, being there

for yourself? Or not offending people?

5. Know what kind of language to use in sticky situations so you can better handle them

and honor your boundaries to get the results you want.


SHOW NOTES:

Anger | How to not be triggered by emotions but stay cool, calm and collected [0:15]

Empathy | How empathy triggers boundaries needed to avoid being mistreated [8:08]

De-escalation | How to not get triggered by someone else’s emotional turmoil [15:03]

Guilt | How to stop being triggered by the guilt of being too assertive [24:48]


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